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denying himself sex because at some point in his life, sex became associated with badness.
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That would be my guess as to what is behind all this. It probably developed over time and he might not understand it himself.
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Originally Posted by KeepGoing8
But, I also recently read that many cultures consider semen to be a sort of "magic mojo juice" that gives men power and drive, and often men do experience a "draining" feeling after ejaculation...i.e. giving away the "magic mojo juice". Many athletes practice abstinence before competing as a way to focus their sexual energy towards athletic performance....hmmm.
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From what I understand, athletes abstaining before competition is based on untrue assumptions. Below is a nice little article with more information on that and 2 quotes from it.
Sex and Sports: Should Athletes Abstain Before Big Events?
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Scientists say there is no physiological evidence to suggest that sex before competition is bad.
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Some people believe the act of ejaculation draws testosterone, the hormone of both sexual desire and aggression, from the body.
"This is a really wrong idea," said Emmanuele A. Jannini of the University of L'Aquila in Italy. Jannini is a professor of endocrinology, the study of bodily secretions, and has studied effects of sex on athletic performance.
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If your sex drive has recently increased a lot but having sex with your husband causes guilt, then I think a logical course of action would be to stimulate yourself more often and also try to work on his "issue". I'm not sure exactly how to do that but if you have a therapist that you trust, I would talk to them about it. If therapy is not an option then you may need to do more research in trying to figure this out. This thread is a good idea and hopefully you will find it helpful.