1. Don't be like your mother. 2. Talk to him about what what you talk to us. If you're obsessing about his wife, bring it up. He is smart enough to know it's not really about her. 3. So just talk about what's going on "in the room". That will tie into the past and present as needed. 4. ie, I don't like to talk about the past as a full hour monologue. a session is more like a collage to me, bits and pieces from everywhere.