Well, of course I usually spring to the "side" of the poster cause I am so adversarial by nature. The term Jerkasaurus rex, used by someone else on another thread, does come to mind.

However, as a long-term lurker and chimer-in, I must say...I see this very very often. A therapist allows lots of contact, the client uses this contact for support, and then the therapist pulls back. the rules change, which causes no end of distress....pain.....a feeling of betrayal.

I can only imagine the pain you must feel at this point. Please keep posting here, because I know it does help me to get the input and caring of those who spend their virtual lives here!

I do want to say though, that I don't think this means that your T thinks you have stagnated or are not trying. This is not a referendum on that, I don't think...is it? Also, I don't think this means that your T has abandoned you ...does it? You believe that is coming, but unless you have a crystal ball (okay, I AM a Wiccan after all so that is not out of the question), you don't know that. Your anxiety is telling you that, which I can certainly fully understand as a serial, unreconstructed worrier myself! In terms of an ultimatum, could you possibly view this as setting a base or expectation framework , so that both of you know where you leave off and the other one begins? In order to give you both some certainty?

I know it's easy to say..hang in there. If nothing else, keep us posters posted!