(((ColourBars))))

Well from your post and the way you invalidate your own self worth, what that often means is you were not really taught to put value in yourself. So that means to me, that you were often invalidated and learned to do that to yourself.

I am not important enough, my problems are not as important as the problems of others, I don't think I have a future, I don't see me being successful and happy in the future, some people are just born better than others.

What you should be saying is; I deserve to be important, I have the right to discuss my problems and find ways to work on them, Though none of us can determine our futher I would like to try this and that and maybe this too, I wan't to give myself a chance and have a future doing something productive and figuring out where I might fit in best, while some people quickly see what they are born to do, others have to just get out there and try different things to see what they ARE born to do. Because after all everyone has the ability to be good at something, and I plan on figuring out what that special something is in me.

And that is what I teach children, work on myself too and taught my daughter to do as well. Not all parents do that and what can happen is what YOU SAY about yourself, you do derserve to think better about yourself.

Think of it this way, if you had a little daughter what would you say to her that would encourage her to keep trying, even if she fails at something? Would you tell her all the things you tell yourself? Would you tell her some people should not live because they just don't have it or are worthless? If she doesn't have friends will you tell her she is never going to have friends isn't worthy of friends?

Just some thoughts

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