I guess I might ask, how did it work when I lived with someone else - husband? Was the breakup part of BP? How do you do in close quarters with a stranger?

As far as HAVING to move far away. Your husband may want you out of the area but that is actually your choice. You could move across town. If you see him turn the other way. I think about my situation. I had to quit working and the very idea of seeing someone from my job puts me into a panic. It's been about 6 years and I have yet to run into anyone from work. Just being in the same town doesn't mean you will see him. Moving across the country is a big deal. Don't let anyone push you into it if that's not what you actually want.