thanks stopdog.i thought about that also this morning.along with weather i have compassion toward people in my life such as my son. and i believe what i have is concern.not so sure it is compassion or empathy or sympathy either.who knows i may be wrong but i don't think so.thanks for reading through yet again one of my long posts.

another side thought.i wonder how good T's are at acting compassionate instead of feeling compassion and if they think we as clients don't know the difference