ty, noneedtoknow. i really appreciate the boost because at times i feel i am fighting a losing battle, a battle for someone that just doesn't get it and someone that just doesn't give a shi*. for now, my husband and i are being strong at a time when i know my son isn't able to be. not sure how much more we can "have his back" tho, if he doesn't take some responsibility here... this battle is sucking the life out of our family