I compare challenging T to being a young child/teenager challenging his/her parents.

I realized this morning that through things people have told me when I've relayed what's going on in therapy and what I know about the process itself is that sometimes therapy is a little like re-parenting.

My T has told me "I can't be your mom in this process." However, my H insists that is exactly what she is doing. She is teaching me how to set boundaries. She is showing me by setting her own boundaries. I rail against those boundaries like a toddler because I want what I want, but as I grow, I learn. I learn boundaries are good things, something that is okay to have in my own life. As I set those boundaries and realize they are healthy things, I grow even more. I gain confidence and an identity. I'm growing up. It's not always fun, but it sure feels like healthy to me!