Dear T

Yesterday's session left me so angry. I felt like you weren't understanding me at all. You were so caught up in your 'theory' and explanations that you were completely missing where I was at. I wanted my hurt heard and understood, not analysed and normalised. I wanted you to understand my pain and sadness. I guess I wanted to feel that emotional connection with you that I felt last week. You seemed determined to get me to look at areas in my life to work on, adult areas, instead of understanding the childhood pain and needs. I can't believe this, especially in the light of what you read before the session. Why didn't you realise I needed a slower, steadier pace where I could talk and simply be heard? And don't you realise I don't ever want to overstep your boundaries? I just wanted to hold your hand but you were talking so much you didn't realise and you overstepped your own.

I'm so fed up with therapy right now. I feel so helpess too because I'm too scared to tell you how angry I am, that you have upset me, that I feel everything you did yesterday was useless and no benefit at all! I don't want to hurt your feelings but that's my pattern with everyone and I just ended up being walked all over.