Anika (((( HUGS))))

Im so sorry you are having all this stress piled on to you on top of everyday life. just do what you can and when she starts just "try" to tune here out ,, I know easier said than done ...
I lost both my parents by the time i was 35 and i get in the pity mode alot more then i should ,, but its hard not too ..
I wish your mom was more supportive and would get herself some help ...

Hopefully you can get thru this visit and no let it set you back ..

**** sending you tons of love*****