Awww thanks guys. Lots an lots.

Maybe I am supressing it. From the minute she arrives it will be " how come no body calls grandma? " even tho you do. " how come I never get anything on my birthday" even tho you get her gifts and call her, and she doesn't return the favor on your birthday. " how come you didn't clean your oven between each use, I did it all when you were kids" " how come your garden, pond, life, weight, kids.....?" " I wish I had such and such, but no one ever such an such for me.. Must be really nice". Ok pretty much every sentence will start or end like this.

She usually starts to get grumpy by 11 am and then she starts the silent treatment. That will last an hour or two. If she brings her husband he won't be able to talk with out being criticized or pounced on and it's uncomfortable to watch. With the grandkids it's " gee your putting on a lot of weight" or " how come you ignore grandma" if it's her favorite nephew it's " gee your parents are sure mean for grounding you for stealing their alcohol, your just a boy".

Ok does this sound familiar to anyone, any idea what it is. I'm scared to interduce her to my boyfriends mother because she will be sooo jealous she won't be able to contain herself. I wish I knew what was going on in her head so I could deal better. Sorry I should point out this is her being well behaved.

Confused, thanks! Taking your advice, I'll make some systematic lists, and just get started, ya that's the hardest part.