I experienced similar troubles with my parents and when I was a child and its only been in my late twenties that the anger and resentment I had errupted when a family argument ended up in court and a lot of bitterness was thrown about. However, there is light at the end of the tunnel because after 2 years of cutting them out of my life I decided that they are humans that are not perfect and did their best with the knowledge they had. Both of their parents were either stern, abusive and neglectful so they did not know any better! It really helps to understand where THEY came from and although they STILL blame me.....I know better and am the bigger more forgiving person x