In session today, T said that what I need to do is to get to know my "little girl BJ". She says I need to be able to hug her and give her understanding for what she went through and give her the caring she didn't have. I need to accept her and take care of her and love her.

This is my 15th month in therapy and the first time T has suggested anything like this. I asked her how I would do something like that. She said by doing exactly what I was doing at that moment. As T knew, I'd spend the whole session feeling lost and confused. My feelings and reactions to things had been irrational and I guess childish in a way. I told her how embarrassed I was for her to see me like that - falling to pieces. She said I'd said that before but that these are the times she values and is excited about because I have to experience them in order to grown in new ways.... Then she threw the "get to know & love little BJ" recommendation at me.

Does anyone have any idea or suggestions about this? Have you ever done anything like that? Where do I start?

- Big BJ