I tested out at dismissive. So have you been able to define a problem for yourself besides "I feel yucky"? In bonniejean's thread, that I have too often and for too long said to people, "you don't have to do that (for me)" is probably the essence of my thang, my motto. So today I thanked T for being open to doing this process with me the way we are doing it; I have a math degree, but I cannot do emotions in the abstract - actual toys have to exchange hands! I have had enough of silent pretending on my own, living in my head, waiting for a day that never comes.