As a client: My T is attached to me, and has said so. We have been through a lot together, and some has been very intense but we got to the other side. She has said she would be hurt if I just suddenly left, because we do have a connection, a relationship, and we should be able to work through those things. She has said even when our therapy work is done, she will be so happy that we did it together, but definitely miss me and hope I check in.

As a therapist: I care about my clients. I care about how they do in therapy. I care if they cancel or "fall off the face of the earth" out of therapy. But I have a healthy "attachment" to them in a therapeutic way, in which I respect and let them make their choices. I may think about them from time to time, wonder how they're doing, hope they are doing their best, but my life and their life will certainly go on.