granite you are triggered like you have been in the past about T, about talking, not talking, other things.

Please try to remember how those other times turned out, and what they have in common with how you are feeling now: You've decided something is happening and you are responding to your own thoughts right now - you haven't had the opportunity yet to check this out with T. Just like you would want her to clarify something with you, she will be wanting you to clarify with her.