((((Leed I can so relate, me too)))))

I have been working on this myself and the truth is that even within families, one member will insist on being like a pack leader and once that is truely established, nothing else matters. You are in a situation where your older sister has that position and your parents allow her to be this pack leader and even though they consider your rights, as soon as she is around, they will continue to fall into their rolls under her established pack leader role.

Everyone is right about the best thing for you to do is make it a goal to get away from this and believe me, IT WILL NEVER CHANGE. So what many here label as TOXIC people has to also, unfortunately be your truth as well.

You are going to have to make sure that when you DO break away that you don't carry a sense of low self esteem because of this. This is NOT your fault and it doesn't mean you truely have NO VALUE as a person. But this sister will NEVER give up this power to you or anyone else.

And the one we all should feel sorry for is her child, because that child will not truely get what it needs to become a healthy independant person, this mother will not allow ANYONE to take away ANY KIND OF POWER.

I am sorry that you are going through this, it is not a nice experience at all, believe me I have been there and am still in ways dealing with it and it is NOT pleasent at all.

(((((Hugs))))
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