Yes, it's interesting that so many people have said 'no, because T wouldn't be broken if I left'. That's the kind of 'attachment' that some of us form, but I think it's perfectly possible for Ts to form healthy attachments to clients.

I think my T does feel attached to me. I believe her when she says that she thinks of me. I believe that she would be very hurt indeed if I just disappeared. We had a really bad session in Feb and she said she was affected to the point of finding it difficult to be fully present with the next person. However, I also completely believe that T's happiness, functioning etc does not depend in any way on me or her relationship with me! She is attached in a way that meets my needs, not hers.

On the other hand, a year ago as she was going on holiday I said I would really miss her, and she replied 'I will miss you too'. That freaked me out. I brought it up recently and she said it is a different kind of missing- it's more noticing that I'm not there, because I'm 'part of her day' in the sense that our contact slots into her day. I told her that if she said she missed me, it suggested that our relationship is to meet her needs instead of (or as well as) to meet mine. She agreed and said that was why she doesn't say 'I'll miss you' anymore. Phew.