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Originally Posted by BonnieJean
Yes, it seems in some ways the child grows, but still remains the child within: It felt like an odd concept to refer to the child me in the third person because the person experiencing childhood was me. That sounds like a freeing experience you had today seeing the two kites at the beach! I think it is going to be important for me to remember and appreciate moments of joy or wonder that I can still experience today. I think also that T was getting at trying to identify and empathize, if you will, with the hurts and stresses and adaptation child me went through. Then I guess to provide what was missing back then from my adult vantage point? IDK. It is still a mystery to me. I appreciate your response, tohelpafriend.
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BJ,
I know what you mean, but a psychologist might understand better the third person, but I do remember me as a child that way, and I was like her "observer", (from now's vantage point, remembering how she 'felt' in certain situations; the observer me recalls the scene, the people, but no really strong emotions; just how it all looked and then the observer recorded it in the subconscious for the adult to process.) I can't imagine how many adults have survived childhood traumas; mine was relatively free of that, except my mother's coldness.
I guess the mind has to do that to integrate past and present. I hope you do feel the moments of wonder and joy! It makes sense what you wrote about identifying and adapting. It is a mystery I agree. In my T childhood has not been the main focus, although what I do remember most about my child is always knowing when something was amiss, someone was sick or needed a job, or a family member had died. It seems for many who've suffered traumas in childhood, the integration process is critical if the child's experiences were compartmentalized for protection. (DID) IDK either! Thanks for your feedback, too; every little bit helps.
A great day to you with moments of wonder and joy, "to help...."