You admit you had full intention of making a life with this other woman and sex is so much better with her. Why then are you still trying to mend things with your wife, who you're not in love with. Seems you only want to mend things now, since the other one ended it. You should let your wife move on and so should you - she's just 2nd choice. If you would be honest and tell your wife how you were so in love with the other woman and how much better at sex she was - do you think she would want to work on the marriage? You're in pain - you should know what it feels like to be cheated on and picture your partner/lovers naked writhing bodies...that's pain. If you won 10 million dollars, would you settle for your wife? When you and your lover did this - how did you justify it. You say your lover isn't a "bad person" yet she knew you were married.