I would say screw your old T and his stupid ultimatums.

At least with a new T, you'll know right off the bat if she's going to try to ultimatum you. Cos you can ask her and make sure she won't do those things. And she'll know how you feel about those things. So unless she is a stupid head she probably wouldn't go that route. You can set up boundaries ahead of time.

I think both momma J is on your side, she just did something that ended up hurting you. Your mom sounds like a douche nugget. If I was you I'd probably key her car.

OK I'm joking on that part. I probably would do that. But I don't think you should do that. I'd definitely ignore her for a solid decade. It sounds like she deserves it.

You could just do like I do and ignore facebook for a month. I haven't logged on in a month and a half now and I feel a lot better about things. Of course I'm too scared to log back on now so I'll probably abandon it, but being truthful it's a large large source of annoyance anyway.

I really hope things start feeling better soon. : (