I am not trying to be hard on you or beat you up. But to be honest my husband cheated on me and he was a binge alcoholic. I didn't find out about the cheating until he was six year sober and could not bear the guilt any more. So it was hard enough for me to wait and try to have faith while he was constantly either working or attending AA meetings then I had to deal with infedelity to? And we did stay together but I have to be honest with you, I do love him, but I don't think that he will ever repair the damage he did to me by his cheating on me.

And my husband decided he loved me even when the other woman pursued him, oh lucky me. But I have to be honest if I had to address the kind of scenario you are discribing, I would not want to try to repair the marriage. I can see your wife is a good christian and is doing her best to respect the vows she took with you. But to be honest, I went through that as well and I wish I could make the hole of it go away in me but so far that hole is still there.

So, I don't know if what you are attempting is truely going to work to be honest.

Open Eyes