You are right, some of this stems from you past and lack of control and not knowing how to gain a control of feeling safe. And yes, you are going to have to work on this in therapy.

Maybe you could have your boyfriend help you with this. Maybe you could have a secret password that you can use when this begins to happen that you could say to him. A word that tells him you are stuggling and need him to put his arm around you just to reassure you that he is there and you are safe.

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