I see their point as well, BUT I also see yours MUE- why can't they? So what if you're not chiming in with your thoughts in group right now? What's the big deal? DO you have to behave as they do? (OK- here it comes..... tell me if this sounds familiar.) If they (as a group) choose to jump off a bridge do you have to follow them? Or do you have the right to withhold participating in that particular event because you feel it might endanger you somehow? So what if they don't like that you're not talking or reacting the way they want you to?

If this is what group T is all about, then I don't ever want to be in group T.

My vote goes to you Mue. You do what's best for you- and don't worry about the group in this situation.