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Originally Posted by Kacey2
Hi Mue,
I can completely relate to what you said about having the group frustrated with you for not being open about yourself. I have been on both sides of that coin. Yes, I am like you in regards to being protective of myself and not sharing homework sheets. People in the group react to that by pulling away but it is not a process group so it really isn't an issue except that it feels bad. I too have been frustrated with people when they are saying things are not well with them but they are too vague. Then there is the third part which is when I feel that I support all these women and don't get anything in return from them when I need something. I love your analogy of the massage parlor but my question for you is.....When you joined your friends did you know you were going to a nude parlor? I really admire your perserverence with this group endeavor. I believe it is 10X's harder than individual therapy. If you don't get responses on the blog I say just blast them with more and more postings. I do hope that you can continue to keep swimming with this group and just remember that all relationships ebb and flow in closeness and farness and it is the ability to move with that that keeps us in long fulfilling relationships. If you can not see that with this group just consider it good practice for RL. Hugs KC
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Thanks, Kacey....
It feels good to know that you can relate, having been in a group therapy atmosphere. It IS so hard.
I honestly did not know what I was getting myself into when I first started this group. My T was originally our marriage counselor...and then when I was nearing divorce, he became my individual T. At that time, he suggested that I join group T and I dove right in.
But, 3 years later, you'd think I'd be more comfortable and more open by now. I told T today that I felt like I was given an ultimatum - and he said that it was black/white thinking. I feel SO stuck though and am having an incredibly difficult time seeing it any other way. Unfortunately, during the session, I started dissociating because of talking about having flashbacks...so embarrassing.
T really wants us to make some progress with trauma work....I'm scared.