Well I couldn't bear it eating away at me so I spoke to my bf via skype about our relationship. I said I wasn't sure whether he would work long term, that I was struggling with how things are and that while I like him I don't know if this is enough for me right now. It was very awkward and difficult but these feelings have eaten away at me and needed to be said.

He asked if I was breaking up with him...I said no...but said I can't be sure re the future and I felt I needed to see him more. He said I needed to do what's right and not to worry about him but it was clear it was very hard for him. I said I couldn't be certain about our future but suggested I go and stay with him for a week or so and see how things go.

So lots of uncertainty but I was honest. I do feel I've left him in a state of limbo though.