I'm with Open Eyes in that I just this week told him (my male T) something I've never told anyone. Ever. Something I thought that I never would tell anyone. Ever. Ever. EVER.

I do not find it difficult to talk about sex in general. I actually find it somewhat easier to talk to men because it has been my experience that, in general, they judge less than other women do (just my experience up to this point in my life). However, when it does to my own childhood sexual abuse, I am pretty much inarticulate. I am finally getting there with my male T. He has been immensely patient and kind. He actually has spent a fair amount of time talking in our sessions (rather than forcing me to talk or sit there in silence). He talks about "normal" reactions to physical and sexual abuse. He talks about the shame and how it isn't mine, but it's normal. So, a lot of what he does is education.

Your therapist will be able to help you find the words. I'm thinking of inviting my T to a guessing game. I think he has probably guessed the rest of the stuff that I have hidden. So, I'm wondering if he will just articulate what he has guessed, if that would make it easier for me to just SAY yes or no to give us a jumping off place. Do you think something similar might work for you?