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My fiance can be like that at times too...It's frustrating because you wished they understood that there really is something wrong with you. Maybe if they did, they would help a little more by helping you more on days that you really need the help. What I will say about my fiance is that he's really good about stepping in and taking care of our daughter. Homework, baths, dinner (if I bribe him), discipling, picking up from school, dropping off. I could not do it without him. Because like you said, some days my daughter can drive me crazy. It's not her fault...It's all me but I'm glad that he helps because I couldn't.
To the poster, have you tried discussing with him alternating taking care of the kids sometimes? On those days that you aren't feeling well, have him watch the kids. I mean really, what's so hard about men watching the kids so that the woman can have a break? On those days that I feel overwhelmed, I give my daughter something to do to occupy her time. Maybe we will sit down and watch movies. Besides that, I put her to bed early on those days. Now about the daughter that was bouncing off the walls, try not giving her a lot of sugar like that. I'm not saying that you didn't know that. My daughter doesn't eat alot of sweets but I don't let her eat something too sugary that will have her literally doing laps around the house. Yes, she does laps. When you get to your breaking point, make your daughter sit down in another room and you walk away before you explode. With the baby, if the baby is crying, walk away, calm down, tune the kids out, get your mind right, regroup, call him to come home if needed. I have done that before too.
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