Thank You for your view on this.

Please note this is my own personal interpretation and understanding to this. Other people who posted may see this differently to me or have another prospective towards this. I am using my personal reasons to explain this to you so sorry if I come across self centred.

So I started this thread because I sometimes I don’t mentally and physically take the best care of myself. I neglect the little things. That you get from life experiences that may seem totally unconnected but simple things can give you skills to work or help with more difficult things in life.

Have you read how on some posts (on other forums) people put sometimes just having good social skills can also play a part in helping someone’s overall mental health. We can get and learn social skills throughout our lifes and gain new ones by trying and working on things that help give us skills and something back. In other words this will not give you instant self worth or be a fix like if you only did these then that’s how and what can give you self worth. I know that but this is a lot better than when I would not leave the house and do nothing.

Doing things like this can give you structure or help work the basic back into your life. When you let them slip. Personally I needed something that gave me a reason to try in life. However silly or little it was. Of course this forced me to start again. If I couldn’t do this then how was I ever going to be able to get back to working. However if I forced myself at this present time to start a job without getting some of basics back into my life then I would still be in that same cycle as before that wasn’t good.

You may think that just (walking to the beach and reading, well how an earth will that help) It helps me because I have to walk there and face walking past people, crossing roads, it may be busy. People who have issues in social situations just walking to a plan place over and over can help as it may help less that worry/ anxiety/ fear or what ever they feel/ think that holds them back going this.

Then the idea is you extend this but little by little/ step by step. Everyone starts something in their life by doing the basics and working their way up. Like you wouldn’t tell a kid if they couldn’t get something to stop it’s pointless and no use. When you our older I noticed it’s easy to think this doesn’t apply to things later in life. Like it’s only applicable to certain things but it’s not it goes for anything and in any time in a person’s life.

Also reading helps/ general hobbies helps because you have to concentrate. Things that give you a pattern or instructions to follow help because this then trains you brain to focus on what you are doing and not those negative thoughts or feelings that get in your way or discourage you. Ok so this is nothing like when I was at work following a layout plan or checking quantities. But I found that difficult in the end not to make mistakes and hard to focus on. So this is addressing the skills needed with the next best thing. The beach part puts some pressure on that I wouldn’t get reading at home, just like you would in a work environment. Again it’s different but what if that person walking past is judging me or commenting on what I am doing so again this is the same thoughts I would get when I am working so this can really help for when I find a job.

Sorry as you can see I am not the best communicator or writer but this is the best way I can explain and put across what I think to you. Again this isn’t the same for every person as everyone has different reason and understanding as to why they do these things and how it gives them something back by doing these. Sorry if this wasn’t of help to you.