This IS a good question. I would say my T is frustrated at me - how much more would he have to give me before I "believed", before I would let go and let myself attach and feel and all that other good stuff? I'm sitting here with the rest of you, saying, but yeah, it's not a REAL relationship... What would it hurt me, and what would I gain?

It would hurt me - my first thought was that it would feel like I am giving in to the mother. But she is nowhere near this field. And I have everything to gain. He has let ME call this game as no one else ever has before - so I really should take advantage of that, and LIVE it. Surprising answer to an outrageous question! Thanks again for the wisdom AND GUTS to ask it, BELLA!