I have been working on this myself and the truth is that even within families, one member will insist on being like a pack leader and once that is truely established, nothing else matters. You are in a situation where your older sister has that position and your parents allow her to be this pack leader and even though they consider your rights, as soon as she is around, they will continue to fall into their rolls under her established pack leader role.

First, hugs to you, esman. You are not alone and I wish you all the best. I hope you will continue to come here for support and encouragement.

I experienced almost the same thing...I can relate on many levels. And as a result, I had very little self-esteem, no identity and was totally invalidated by them and humiliated. I felt STUCK, as well, in very toxic family dynamics.

I truly hope that you will find a T/P to help give you the tools to realize how valuable and wonderful you truly are! ((((Icecreamkid)))) is correct, you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity and to feel heard and validated.

((((Open Eyes)))) a page right out of the book of my life (thank you for sharing).