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Apr 06, 2012, 03:29 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi ~
I know this has been hard on you -- it's never easy becoming a step-mom. But you have to remember that this boy is just a child. He's jealous. He KNOWS that you and his father have a good relationship, and he's afraid that you might "take him away" from him. Of course it's ridiculous, but to a child it's very real. Plus his Mom and Dad aren't together anymore, and perhaps he thinks it's HIS fault. Kids often feel responsible for the split and often parents don't think to explain to them that it's NOT their fault.  So he may be trying to get you out of the picture so he can get his parents back together, not knowing that this isn't going to happen.
Patience & understand are crucial here. Plus he needs alot of LOVE. Sure, he's going to mess up, and probably frequently. He's going to try your patience to the nth degree! You may want to pull your hair out.  But try seeing it from his side. He may feel like he's being tossed around from pillar to post, going back to Mom & then back to Dad. He doesn't "belong" anywhere! At least that's probably how HE feels. Make him feel like he DOES belong.
You have a hard job ahead of you. But this little guy's future depends alot on YOU and his Dad (and Mom) of course. Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee
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