Leed....very, very good point. I really have nothing to say about how long the friend stays (or how long anyone stays for that matter)...my issue is more that he didn't take much time away from the friend to come visit me at my house (they were together 24/7 the entire visit). Honestly, the friend could have moved in for all that I care (my BF actually has a roommate, and I have no issue with him since he's very sweet and keeps to himself)...I just wanted private time at my place a couple of times a week rather than having to visit him there (too much smoke in the house and was just not comfortable in a house with my boyfriend, his friend and the roommate all weekend, every weekend, for 4.5 months...just too much testosterone for my taste)! The friend also has a drinking problem and I believe struggles with depression...I just was not happy being there but had no real other way to spend time with my guy.

They've been in business about 7 years. Normally, the guy comes over once a year...he stays anywhere from a month to four months. Although we started dating two years ago, he did not come the first year we were together. So, it was kind of shocking to have this guy show up and stay for such a long time.

Yeah, I want to let it go and just focus on reconnecting. I think that having a positive attitude and not expecting the worst for the next visit may help. I'm just going to have to convince myself that the next visit in a year or so will only be for a few weeks! (Here's to hope).. ...