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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
Oh, I definitely talk in group. I mostly respond/react to what other people say, provide insight, support, etc...and share very little about my own struggles.
What's happening at the moment, though, is that I had a very strong reaction in group - and instead of expressing it, I completely shut down for 2-3 weeks in group....so I wasn't reacting/responding to anything that was going on. It was like I was totally blocked off. And now, people are angry with me for not being involved in group...and for me not allowing them to help me work through what's causing me to shut down.
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It's difficult to know what to do when a group member seems to be left out. Do we wait for her to speak or encourage her to speak. If she doesn't feel like talking should we accept that or try to work out why she doesn't feel like talking? I sometimes felt guilty. Was I ignoring her, or making it difficult for her to speak? Is the group playing too rough, and would it help to be less open?
These days I would say, "MUE, I noticed you haven't said anything about yourself for a while. Is there anything I can do to make it easer for you to talk? You look worried and I'd like to hear about that."
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