thank you everyone for all your help and suggestions. its been a miserable day and nobody irl was there for us to help despite numerous pleading. the waves are in a less intense phase right now but we are so physically mentally exhausted. we will write down the suggestions when we are a bit more coherent but for now we just wanted to make sure we thanked everyone. and we apologize for not remembering who asked what the fb are like but yes,they are intense painful overwhelming as if it is actually happening right now like the present doesnt exist and we feel the pain smell hear taste-we wouldnt wish this on anyone