Yeah, this is me. Right down to the "getting it" intellectually really fast, but "getting it" emotionally... that takes time.

My T and I have had a lot of struggle surrounding what "reassurance" is to me, and a lot of conversations about what it takes for me to internalize positive feelings that other people have about me. Of course, a lot of it has to do with how I feel about myself, and that's pretty much always something we're going to work on. That's kind of a given. But for what the other person can do, repetition helps me A LOT. If someone is willing to say something over and over again every time I start slipping into doubt, that really cements my trust in them. Or, I should say, it WOULD really cement my trust in them, because most of my experience has been the opposite.

So now, sometimes when he says something really kind, I might say, "I'm trying really hard to believe you," and he will say, "Well, I will say it as many times as it takes until you do." It helps me a great deal.