I work with a male pdoc/T. He is a specialist in trauma. He has a way that helps me talk without feeling embarrased. I feel more shame than anything. He also doesn't talk about more than twice in a row because he feels it is to overwhelming. Believe me there is pienty of other things that need help. I hope you can work through this with him. It takes a long time and a feeling of being very safe. It took me a year. Good luck.