I'm glad you're here. You're in good hands.

As the others have said, you are right about the respect thing. It is vital, and it shouldn't come and go like a tide. It should ALWAYS be there. I don't care how comfortable he thinks he is. That's total BS.

There are many people in this world that like to push buttons, especially with the ones they supposedly "care" about. While I don't understand this myself, there are those that thrive when there is chaos or drama. What I've learned to do is either roll with it and stand my ground, or simply walk away. Some people are worth it - and some aren't.

I can tell you really love your boyfriend. But let me tell you this from experience - time shouldn't have ANYTHING to do with whether he respects you or not. There are people that I love more because I get to know them better.

But the fact that he's not only disrespecting you but also turning his back when you're upset is just wrong. He is pressing buttons, and you need to not let him get away with it if you want to stay together.

Tell him when you're not upset that you don't appreciate him talking to you in a derogatory manner - ever. It's not funny, it's not cool, and you need to let him know that you will not allow him to talk to you that way anymore.

Remind him that respect goes both ways. Because I'm afraid if this continues, you will only wind up resenting him more and more.

If you guys really want this to work, you've got to talk about it.