My T is a male and I never, ever thought I would have a male therapist. He's wonderful. I've told him things that I've never said to anyone.

I haven't yet been able to tell him the details of my CSA, but he knows a lot about it. He and I have talked about how hard it is for me to talk about the details and he's giving me whatever time I need. The way he sees it, it'll come layer by layer, bit by bit, as I get comfortable sharing small pieces. Eventually, it will all come out, but it doesn't have to be all at once. In fact, he thinks it'll be better for me not to try to share it all at once.

The key is to take your time. It'll probable always feel uncomfortable to tell him what happened, but it shouldn't be terrifying or traumatizing. His job is to help you get to that point.