I recently read "Lost in the Mirror" by Richard Moskovitz. I thought it was excellent, and I related to it a lot. This author seems to know how to talk to people with BPD. He's honest, and recognizes things like the black and white thinking that can even affect how well-received the book might be, and that we might love it or we might get offended and throw it across the room.

There is a whole chapter on resources at the end, including treatment programs, books, & websites.

One of the parts that I found particularly helpful was under treatments, where he outlined a list of treatment goals for BPD. My T keeps asking what my goals are, and I try to come up with something so that I don't just sit there and get stared at. This helped to give me some ideas and structure.