My exT was tall and thin and blonde and blue eyed and straight. I am short and fat and brunette and brown eyed and a lesbian. A very strong, very deep and, at first, very deeply repressed part of me hated her with the burning, seething passion that only envy can produce. When I told her about my envy, she told me how unhealthy it was (mfing duh) and about the terrible plight of being thin and conventionally beautiful. I wanted to punch her in the throat, but I learned a lot about our incompatibility as therapist and patient.

I would address your weight loss history sooner rather than later, so you can gauge her response and make a better assessment about whether she's a good match for you.