Ceriane is right on (you should write advice professionally if u don't already!)
Before I met my husband, sex was an afterthought for me. I wasn't that interested, I didn't know how to orgasm...so all the sex I did have with my pre-husband BFs was that: "okay, do your thing dude, and then let me go clean up..." style sex...not sexy at all. I was really confused about the rest of the world's seeming obsession with sex, and I would dream of finding a man who was down for a sexless relationship (not in this lifetime, not in this country!) All of this was before I met a sweet and gentle giant at the computer lab job I got at university. We worked together as coworkers and friends for 2 YEARS before we even started dating. Over that time I got to know him, he got to know me, and we gradually fell in love (all of this with no sex, no kissing, no nothin...just talking and being around each other). Finally, he made me a sweet and cheesy mixCD, declaring his love to me. At first I FREAKED! I hadn't allowed myself to even see him in that light because he was so different from other men I'd been with...but I realized, I didn't really even like those other guys and here I have this amazingly sweet, considerate, and caring man declaring his love to me...wtf am I NOT with him already? From there, things went fast, but only because we had that 2 year friendship and knowledge of each other to build on. To this day he is a compassionate and patient lover who never wants to force sex if I'm not in the mood, is open to trying new things for fun or exploration, and who holds my enjoyment and pleasure above even his own. I'm not saying there are many men like this out there, but they ARE out there and in my experience the best thing you can do is wait, be patient, move at your own pace, and demand, for yourself, a lover who will not only allow you this patience, but will love you all the more for it.