Quick update....I saw my daughter yesterday. I was so proud of myself....I didnt yell or scream, we had a loving afternoon yet I was still stern. She asked if I could set up for her to go the the 8th grade dance and graduation with everyone else, I just looked at her and said..you know as long as you are putting yourself at risk and making choices that put yourself at risk home isn't a safe place for you; we need to work on why choices are so hard for you and how to make safer choices. The past is the past, but I need her future to be better. She has been told everyone working with her basically the same thing, but I don't think it has set in to her yet that she need to work on herself there.....no just kill time until her 1 yr is up. I also told her that I was very upset they promoted her and did not think she deserved it. She said she knew she didn't deserve it and the only reason she did go through with moving up was because if she didn't when it was deserved it could take them 2-3 weeks to actually move her up (that is actually true.....they are always too busy and do just what they have too). I know to take our conversations with a grain of salt.....I can't tell you how many times I have heard "trust me, I wont do that again" or "I learned from that mistake". It felt absolutely amazing to see her and hug her though. She even came and sat down on my lap when i was sitting watching the voice (yes....i was sitting outside her bedroom door hoping she would), but it worked. So, now I have a question......I know doctors dont like to diagnosis kids with mental health problems (I think they use the catch all of ADHD until they are older), but is there a way to push for it? Do they have to look more into if I say I want it done? She sees a psychiatrist once a month, but just like I thought they talk about the side effects of her meds (weight gain, loss of sleep) and the doctor leaves it at that and I am not there to say anything about it. If it isnt just ADHD....do we have to just suffer for 4-5 years until she is old enough to really be looked at. When I saw the difference between her learing before the ADHD and after it helped her so much. The meds clicked that little switch to make sitting possible. What if there is another wire with a little short circuit? She deserves to have be a happy teen not struggling with things she can't control. Besides once I know what she can control making sure the rules are fair will be easier. Thanks for listening