Quote:
Originally Posted by stopdog
"It is possible to sit with the bigness of a feeling and not be carried away by it...."
Even unapproved feelings? I kind of picture my brain as having a committee and feelings need to apply with a proposal as to what they are for, what the outcome will be if allowed, how long they plan on lasting, what other bits the feeling plans on bothering, to what purpose, etc. Then the brain will consider the proposal, sometimes approve, sometimes deny and somtimes request further information or suggest changes that will speed up the approval process. Sometimes the feelings bypass the brain approval process and set up like squatters or corporate raiders and need to be ousted. And new security guards hired.
OR at least that is how my ideal brain/feeling thing would work.
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yep, even unapproved feelings.
I haven't had the image of a committee like that in my brain ..... more like a gate thing with a security guard. Here, you can come; no, you can't! and ready to fight anything that wanted to force its way in without permission.
I spent a lot time fighting/warring in my head with unwanted feelings. And feeling a sort of shame that the feelings even existed or dared exist even though they should have the sense to know where they weren't wanted!
so, I have done this exercise in my mind where I gather up ALL the feelings/thoughts in there, even the ones I disapprove of, hate/loathe/despise, want to reject or outright destroy, and tell them I acknowledge and accept their existence .... and that I love them all, too. That takes some wind out of their sails.
And gives me power over them.