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Apr 10, 2012, 12:39 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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My granddaughter (who lives with me) is 16, and her father is the same way. He has hurt her for years, by not coming when he said he would, by not calling when he said he would, by forgetting birthdays, Christmas, etc. SHE always instigated the contact -- until the last year or so when she said she'd had ENOUGH. So she quit calling, stopped contacting completely.
You should not be afraid to tell him how you feel. What is he going to do? Beat you? I doubt it. You should be allowed to express your feelings regardless of 'who' he is! He's hurt you -- why can't you tell him? He hasn't been very concerned about your feelings before -- you should let him know that! I agree with your Mom -- he NEEDS to take responsibility for what he's done to you! Why should he walk away scott-free? And this way, I doubt you'll feel so depressed again because you let it be KNOWN how you feel instead of keeping it inside to fester. Once you let it out, you'll feel MUCH better.  Believe me, I've done it and it does work.
Don't be afraid. You have rights too. You have the right to speak your feelings. There is nothing wrong with that. Don't back down, ok? We'll be right there with you, don't forget that ok? God bless & let us know how it went, will you? Love, Lee
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