Okay Aslan...we got the picture. You only believe in sex within the confines of marriage. Anything other than that is just not your thing. But, there are plenty of normal, healthy people out there who want something different for their lives. But, please note that just because you're married doesn't mean that sex isn't used for purposes other than love and children...it can be used as an apology, it can be used as an enticement to get someone to do something that they really don't want to do, and it can be used just to relieve tension/stress....still sounds like one person using the other...being married doesn't change that.