Danni, I am sorry to hear about how these things are going for you. I can see this man is minipulating your life. He may tell you he loves you but his actions are not showing it. I know this because I have had similar problems. My problems are from the other side. I cheated on my wife and lied to her. But how you can tell if he really loves you is if he is actually doing things to make yours and his life better. I am on this site seeking help just like you to better myself because I really do love my wife and want to make our lives better for each other. I know what I did was wrong and I want to change my life so that I never hurt her or anyone else like I did again. If your husband is trying to do the things to show you instead of continuing to hurt you, then he really loves you. Unfortunately this does not sound like he does. I do not agree that "Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater" quote but if he continues to do the same things over and over he most likely will not change.

I am sorry for your pain right now. I feel guilty just reading your post and thank you for having the courage of sharing.