I get that way with many kinds of relationships, but my thoughts don't always carry proof. Nevertheless, my thoughts end up flying out of my mouth anyway. Then the thoughts keep adding a little more to the size of the snowball I am creating. This usually causes the end result of feeling like an ***** myself and then having to ask for forgiveness, but in some cases I find that my thoughts and words are spot on.

The only thing that I have found to work for me is to examine my rules and goals. I mean basically just ask myself what I really want and then figure out if my rules even make sense. That sounds easy, but the hard part is for me to pull myself from the situation long enough to figure those things out without adding more fuel to the fire.

Hope that helps a bit