Here is a link I found on the subject.
http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/suf...pressed/all/1/
Also, there may be support groups for such a thing. Maybe you could look into finding something in your area. Hope you keep posting on here!
By the way, I am a husband with depression and know how difficult it is on my wife when I am in my depressive states.
Oh, and one question if you are willing to answer. And I'm sorry if this is something you already said somewhere else... Is your husband receiving any type of treatment for his depression?