I think this is a very valid point. My family is like this. They expect me to jump in and fix things and help them. And something in me feels guilty when I don't do it. I instantly thought of this when I read the first question. However, that's me casting my life upon it, not me reacting to the question.

As far as the second question goes, I have such a strong tendency to minimize. I don't know how to tell what is right and what is wrong in this situation. I struggle trying to figure this out. I feel like I am right, but the more I read about CSA, the more I think that my perceptions are distorted.